Biggey has been doing well with her integration into the new school (her second secondary school since September!). She has been reasonably calm and composed each evening and each morning. The transition has been steady and without pressure on her (or me) to get her into school full time. I’ve been so glad that they agreed to this as it is important that this time her experience is a success.
She has been going into this small unit every day for the last couple of weeks for part of a day and in the last week she progressed to four full days and a big chunk of the fifth day! After Easter she has even signed up for an after school cookery club!
All in all I have been very pleased with how things have gone and my view of this school has not changed since my first meeting as detailed in We Have a Plan and even in later posts of So Far So Good. However, forgive me for gushing, yet I have been (nicely) surprised and amazed yet again by this school.
On Friday lunchtime I get a call on my mobile. It’s the Headteacher.
Oh God! What’s happened? What has she done?
Well that was the first though that went through my mind. I mean, Headteachers of Secondary Schools don’t just randomly ring parents as a ‘nice to do’ on a Friday lunchtime on the last day of term. Do they??
Well actually, yes they do! OK I know I have been gushing about the staff in this school but still, pick me up with amazement all over again…..
He said he was ringing to say how well he though Biggey had settled in and that it was progressing much better than they had expected and he was wondering what my thoughts were and how I feel it was going. Just a moment …. rewind … he was actually asking for my opinion and views??? I need picking up off the floor again!!
So, whilst trying to contain my delight and remain a bit like a focussed sensible adult, I managed (I think) to tell him some of things I think have been good and helpful. I praised the two key members of staff who are having the most input to Biggey at the moment. I was able to tell him the latest piece of information I had got from her just a couple of nights before.
She said she was with a teacher in DT working on a 1:1 basis. The teacher asked why Biggey had moved schools. Now in Biggey’s usual way, she didn’t really give correct information and had said it was because they didn’t help her with her dyslexia. The teacher then apparently said “oh, so not for behaviour then?” So Biggey said
Well I don’t tell people if I don’t feel safe or if I’m struggling or if people upset me and then sometimes I take it out on other people
The teacher apparently just said “Oh thank you for telling me”. I was, at this point listening with awe and unable to say anything for a moment. Eventually I wondered aloud if my child had been taken away by aliens to which I was told
No. This is me when I feel safe and when I’m not feeling worried and not worried about being told off all the time.
Isn’t that amazing! I told the Head this and that it is indeed because she feels safe and accepted and comfortable enough to be able to do this and that I was grateful for the team they are providing around my child in addition to the effort I put in.
It was a 10 minute call, which doesn’t sound like a lot, but covers a lot of conversation. I was positively delighted when it finished.
When I collected Biggey later that day, I took a moment to begin to mention to the two members of staff. They said they already knew because the Head had sent them an email saying well done for the good work! What a great way to finish for the holidays.